My Baby, Mean Girls Are In Your Future
Do you look at your child and worry for them? All of the things they will experience in life that you know will hurt them and hurt you all the same? I’ve thought about this a lot lately and I worry for my child mostly because she is a girl and girls can be mean. I’m sure you heard about the body shaming on the internet by Dani Mathers. It’s not okay, what are we teaching these younger girls?
Isabella I want you to know that some most girls can mean. But I want you to be like me and keep your heart open. Love all until you see that they are not worthy of your love. At the same time be cautious with that love and don’t give too much of yourself and that bright beautiful personality. The more you give the more it’s going to hurt when they push you down. Someone will, honestly many will in your adolescence and adulthood. You see girls can be so mean. My husband asks me, “Why do girls have such a hard time being nice and getting along?” I don’t have an answer for him. I wonder too, why we can’t bring each other up and pull each other to the top rather than push each other down. As long as I see woman continuing this conduct I hoped to escape when leaving middle school, high school, college, I’m not sure this nasty behavior will end.
It starts with us the moms, the caretakers, the teachers, the grandmothers. We need to put an end to it. We need to raise strong, brave, loving woman that are confident enough to not have a need to bring others down. Show love to your daughter and show her how to be kind to others. Correct your child and explain to them why something they are doing can be hurtful. Ask your child if they would feel happy being treated that way. I taught social skills and in that class bullying, making friends and keeping friends was a big topic. So be that teacher to your child. Demonstrate the correct behavior and as woman, please let us put this means girls crap to rest!
For now I’m going to hold my child tight and try not to worry, but hope that she won’t have many mean girl days ahead. I’m trying not to fear the days of her dealing with being left out, lied about, lied to and emotionally abused.
It starts with us MAMAS! Let’s end it now!
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XO Eryka
Oh so much truth. Great post! Wish we could shelter our kids forever!
Glad I’m not alone ?
I agree, girl. It starts with us!
Thank you Stephanie! We will/can make the change
You are so beautiful and this has so much truth. <3 You can and will help this beautiful little girl to be kind and make the world a better place <3
Thank you Mal, it’s a scary reality
While I was we could tell our children how beautiful the world and the people in it are, that’s not always necessarily true. We must be truthful and prepare them for what ugliness they may face. We must build them up at home so that society can’t tear them down easily!
So beautifully put. Thank you
It is heartbreaking how broken our world is. I worry about Tera because she can be so shy and already has a tendency to be pushed aside at the top of slide on the playground. This is so beautiful, and you are so right..it starts with us as Moms. No pressure, right?
Right? It’s all ok us, no pressure at all! Thank you for the love
beautiful post, and girls aren’t the only ones who can be mean! So important to teach our kiddos to be kind to everyone!
Yes so true! Boys can be too. It’s mostly the girl on girl attacks that really have me nervous
Yes! I worry about this a lot with my girls, being on both the giving and receiving end of “mean girlness” and we talk a lot about what’s appropriate, how our actions make others feel and that kindness trumps all.
Love your talks! They are so important! Keep it up mama!
I love this, it makes me so sad to think about what our kids face–especially with other mean kids.
Thank you! Agree, there is so much more they will deal with beyond the mean girl issue
This is so true and so sad that girls aren’t nicer! It’s so important to teach our kids to be kind!
Yes! It really starts with us as parents